Friday, April 8, 2016

My lucky good life


I keep wanting to take down that naked-faced photo of me in the previous post. I'm not in love with all that gray in my hair, even though I know that ten years from now, this will seem such an unforgivable vanity. Vanity or no, I'm sitting here, saying good morning to you, while waiting for a box of color to work on said gray. I go back and forth, liking my gray edges sometimes, liking especially when they catch the light and look silvery, but at other times, they just make me feel gray. 

My husband happens to be fond of my gray and would have me not color it, though he is never declarative about things pertaining to other people's personhood. He jokes, however, that he and our kids put every turned hair there, and that's why he loves them. I appreciate that he's cool with me as I am, but sometimes, I'm up for a little color play.

Still, the physical ease I'm grateful to feel in his presence has me thinking this morning about something my daughter told me when we were away. She was remembering a comment her dad once made, which she now holds dear. She said he told her, "You know, when I got married, I thought I loved your mother, but I really had no idea how much more I would love her with each passing year. And when she had my children, I thought my heart would explode." When our girl told me this, tears pricked my eyes. My man might stubborn as hell when it comes to things like going to the doctor, but Lord, what a good man I married, and what a wonderful father I gave my children.


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  1. "You know, when I got married, I thought I loved your mother, but I really had no idea how much more I would love her with each passing year. And when she had my children, I thought my heart would explode." Marvelous. *sniffle*

    And when you wrote about your grays I thought you wrote "I felt so gravy" and I thought, well that doesn't sound half bad... Even with glasses I get things wrong haha I like your naked selfie. When I saw it I thought, "She is so cool." Seriously. Keep it out there. You rock <3

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    1. Hannah, you're right, feeling gravy is just a hair away from feeling groovy! Thank you for that good thought, dear friend.

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  2. I think I have something in my eye.........

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    1. Expat mom, here's a hankie, dear, and always, always nice to see you around here.

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  3. I have gray hair as well and my husband likes it. I don't like it so much so I colour it. Maybe one day I will let it grow out. Honestly though, I think you look lovely with gray hair.

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    1. Thank you, Birdie. There's no accounting for what we see in the mirror, I guess, and even that changes day to day.

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  4. That is so, so sweet. Now I have to go see your gray haired photo.

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    1. Kristin, I was just undone by it. In a good way.

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  5. What a beautiful sentiment for your husband to share with his daughter. She should expect no less from her future partner. You are both wonderful role models for your children.

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    1. Dear Unknown, Welcome! I'm thrilled you commented, and would love to know who you are.

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  6. It's funny what we notice, or not. I had to go back to your picture because I didn't remember the grey and had to see it to believe it. I do remember thinking, the first time through, how smooth and flawless your skin is! So there you go. Beautiful photos and lovely post.

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    1. jenny_o, i had the sun on my skin; it think it helped a bit, lol

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  7. Your gray hair is beautiful, and – needless to say – so is your marriage.

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    1. A, thank you, and yes, which is not to say effortless always, but yes, yes.

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  8. A beautiful post. You are both so lucky and rich in love. I happen to like your gray hair. And your brown ones. XXOO

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    1. Yolie! You are the queen of going gray beautifully! XXOO backatcha!

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  9. You look lovely just being you. Your kids are the best having you as parents. Sending love.

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  10. Well, I love my gray hair but I just want everyone to feel the best with what they have and what they choose. You, my love, are gorgeous whatever. So...if gray hair makes you feel gray, color it!
    I think that the thing that struck me the most in what you said here is what you said about your husband being a good man and a wonderful father. I feel that way about my husband and it is a blessing above all others because so much goodness flows from that.
    I love you, woman.

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  11. I'll say it again: You have a remarkable family.

    For what it's worth, I like your gray! But why not play around with color if you want to? Nothing wrong with that, either.

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