tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post6285764270897858040..comments2024-03-28T14:45:34.423-04:00Comments on 37 Paddington: Fat Girl37paddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-17256031685580976402010-04-23T11:42:55.096-04:002010-04-23T11:42:55.096-04:00Scarlethue, you are so right! Such wise words. I w...Scarlethue, you are so right! Such wise words. I will take them to heart. Thank you.<br /><br />ellen, i so understand that preemptive instinct, even though on some level I know that the judgement we fear is an illusion. People aren't even thinking much about us. More likely they're busy worrying about how they themselves appear. Life is such an odd dance!37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-37775755783170673762010-04-23T09:50:46.087-04:002010-04-23T09:50:46.087-04:00I wish I had some wise and enlightening words for ...I wish I had some wise and enlightening words for you, but I sure don't.<br /><br />I lied on my very first driver's license because I just knew I was so obviously overweight, no one would look at me and believe that I weighed the amount that I actually DID, so I said that I weighed 20 pounds more. <br /><br />I've been struggling with both actual weight and delusional weight my whole life.<br /><br />You are such an intelligent woman, I hope you do better than I've done figuring it all out.~ellen~https://www.blogger.com/profile/00315658592077559215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-25358117458645232122010-04-21T13:19:14.186-04:002010-04-21T13:19:14.186-04:00Just last night I pointed out a woman on tv to my ...Just last night I pointed out a woman on tv to my husband, a woman who was slightly overweight but really was just wearing unflattering jeans, and asked him if I looked like her. Because in my head, I look like her all the time. Chubby, rolly, uncomfortable, and unflattering. He looked at me like I was crazy, which is answer enough. We all do this to ourselves, we're all so much harder on ourselves than we are on anyone else. Women are the worst at this too, always thinking of ourselves first as our physical bodies, then our true selves.<br /><br />I bet if you ask someone, your kids, your close friends, to be truthful and tell you what your "primary identity" is to them, "fat" is not a word you would hear, not at all. YOU are so much more than your body.scarlethuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04261263598183741538noreply@blogger.com