tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post6852532634988332552..comments2024-03-28T14:45:34.423-04:00Comments on 37 Paddington: While baking cake37paddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-50023791442377232372014-10-07T02:53:36.194-04:002014-10-07T02:53:36.194-04:00How horrible. I just wonder what makes some guys d...How horrible. I just wonder what makes some guys do things like that. Maybe they think it's a sort of savage compliment, or maybe they're just not thinking at all. (More likely.) Anyway, I hope she can use the experience positively somehow, to fuel her feminist energies.Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-82336964394363219652014-10-06T22:19:58.933-04:002014-10-06T22:19:58.933-04:00I don't know what I would tell my daughter if ...I don't know what I would tell my daughter if I had one. My sister was raised in fear of this escalating and I see how much it has affected her handling of these issues. I have never, ever had anything happen to me because I confronted these men. Quite the opposite. The last time it happened was a few nights ago and he apologized. It just feels wrong that we've been taught to ignore it and to suppress our rightful anger because of what may happen to us. And so we are constantly victims of men who were not taught to leave us alone. <br />Miss Ahttp://thisismylifeasiliveit.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-78112390357857988252014-10-06T16:42:39.365-04:002014-10-06T16:42:39.365-04:00I agree too about the confrontation - I think it t...I agree too about the confrontation - I think it totally depends on the situation. One of the best moments for me was in Morocco when men would constantly make sexual comments to me, and on my last night I was DONE. So a man was too close and aggressive and so I confronted him. I shouted and he backed off and then I raised my fists and ran towards him. He ran off in total confusion. People on the street saw this and older men told me I responded correctly, but then why didn't THEY tell the young men to stop?NOLAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05572754078356812922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-45954816895582073092014-10-06T16:40:10.249-04:002014-10-06T16:40:10.249-04:00I think that the new inititiaves are in the right ...I think that the new inititiaves are in the right direction - teach your sons not to act this way AND to stand up to other men who are acting this way. Notions of masculinity need to shift. <br /><br />When I was in Jordan, if a man leered at me or any such thing, all the people on the street would turn on him and shout that's not how to treat people. It was a beautiful thing and I think it could happen here too. Think of y'all's sons and how they would never tolerate such behavior near them. NOLAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05572754078356812922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-56248497084670360102014-10-06T14:51:56.562-04:002014-10-06T14:51:56.562-04:00Oh Yolie, I know exactly what you mean. Is accepta...Oh Yolie, I know exactly what you mean. Is acceptance of what is the same as defeat? Or is it rising above? I don't know.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-90390599219489258972014-10-06T11:36:11.762-04:002014-10-06T11:36:11.762-04:00I don't know why this brought a lump to my thr...I don't know why this brought a lump to my throat this morning. Of course I feel so sad for your beautiful girl (any girl) having to deal with that. Or maybe it's the loss of that fierce anger I felt when I was young replaced now with disgusted acceptance. Some people are just assholes.plantingalongtheverge.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13899341805908954700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-51199999924073623712014-10-06T10:51:53.424-04:002014-10-06T10:51:53.424-04:00Sabine, you are so right! Why should women walk ar...Sabine, you are so right! Why should women walk around feeling less safe in parks, at night on the street, coming home late. As the mother of girls, we worry all the time, even when it is not at the surface. We walk around with the knowledge that our access to and enjoyment of the entirety of the world comes with a risk, most especially when we are young. I want to keep my girl safe; does that mean I have to teach her to operate with an awareness of these limits? So unfair.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-42082721115590771242014-10-06T10:45:45.033-04:002014-10-06T10:45:45.033-04:00Elizabeth, this has happened to me all my life, ju...Elizabeth, this has happened to me all my life, just as it happens to all women, less now, of course, that I am older. But you know, I was inured. I have not felt so righteously angry about this till now, because it now affects my daughter. Thanks for the videos! It does help to leaven the anger with bitter laughter!37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-25556852030527515642014-10-06T10:43:52.079-04:002014-10-06T10:43:52.079-04:00Birdie, oh God. How awful!Birdie, oh God. How awful!37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-26482026813696396222014-10-06T10:42:14.447-04:002014-10-06T10:42:14.447-04:00e, now there's a thought. Maybe our response s...e, now there's a thought. Maybe our response should simple be "What would your mother/wife/sister/daughter think if they could see you now?"37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-68623242261451514812014-10-06T10:40:44.892-04:002014-10-06T10:40:44.892-04:00Miss A, I hesitated to tell her to confront the me...Miss A, I hesitated to tell her to confront the men because I don't want it to escalate the situation. But does it feel worse when you don't fight back? I don't know the answer here. I know your mother, above all else, just wanted to keep you safe. Thank you for this comment and for the solidarity.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-1150375732704787732014-10-06T10:38:51.295-04:002014-10-06T10:38:51.295-04:00Ms. Moon, I felt so at a loss to come up with anyt...Ms. Moon, I felt so at a loss to come up with anything that would truly change the situation in a macro sense. And yet I can't just accept that we have to accept this. 37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-32919656298138867972014-10-06T03:44:41.868-04:002014-10-06T03:44:41.868-04:00This is the kind of anger all women carry inside, ...This is the kind of anger all women carry inside, some of us have it buried so deep, we break out in a rash at times not knowing why. Show me a mother who feels her daughter is safe out on the town at night. Show me a mother who sleeps soundly when her daughter is travelling after dark. There was a time when I was convinced it was up to us women to reclaim the night, the street, the safety of our neighbourhoods. It's not our failure that it hasn't happened. Sabinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09015827501648296977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-69134591345201431842014-10-05T23:25:39.116-04:002014-10-05T23:25:39.116-04:00It's horrible -- and perhaps even more horribl...It's horrible -- and perhaps even more horrible when we just become inured to it. I think it's good to be really angry about such things. It's essential for change -- that sort of very righteous anger. That being said, this video might help her to laugh and be pissed off: <br /><br />https://screen.yahoo.com/women-catcalled-men-002257987.htmlElizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-73308302109594921432014-10-05T22:33:59.183-04:002014-10-05T22:33:59.183-04:00Where I live there have been several cases of &quo...Where I live there have been several cases of "flashing". Women cannot go to local hiking trails without this in the back of their mind. Now get this... A suspect was recently apprehended and has a history. He raped an 80 year old woman. He served his time and was released. After he was charged for the flashing incidents he was released again with a promise to appear. He is now free to walk about (with a promise not to go to parks!) and is awaiting trial.<br />My biggest problem is not these sicko predators but the powers that be that let them loose. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-113924364714316772014-10-05T20:24:27.457-04:002014-10-05T20:24:27.457-04:00She is right, and so are you and I can only agree ...She is right, and so are you and I can only agree with the other sentiments here. She is also physically unharmed. Will the world change? One `can hope and work toward creating examples that teach humans not to be racist, sexist, ableist, etc. I also wonder how the mothers, sisters or wives of those men would feel if they knew what they'd done on the street...ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-75651771274250821752014-10-05T18:27:46.630-04:002014-10-05T18:27:46.630-04:00I am so so sorry but mostly so upset that your dau...I am so so sorry but mostly so upset that your daughter had this experience. Sadly, I believe most women of color will one day get asked "how much"... And from this stems most of my rage issues that I am trying to control. Because it is, she is right, it is unacceptable what some men think they have a right to do or say to us. My stepmom, like you, was very worried because this happens to me way to much (even with her, even in a cab once) and a few years ago I started confronting those men. Loudly, harshly. She was worried until she saw me doing it and then she said she was impressed. Would I do it late at night alone in a street or a subway. No. Will I do it midday. Yes. <br /><br />But again. This is unacceptable. And good for your daughter for not being ashamed but for being mad.<br />This world.Miss Ahttp://thisismylifeasiliveit.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-44105733825709494442014-10-05T16:56:18.571-04:002014-10-05T16:56:18.571-04:00I think all women know exactly how she felt. That ...I think all women know exactly how she felt. That anger which boils up and makes you wish (no matter how much of a pacifist you are) that you could somehow smash them, do anything to make them stop, to turn the ugliness back onto them. Women should NOT ever have to feel this way. I wonder if it will ever change. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.com