tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post7688841241932571806..comments2024-03-27T23:02:14.229-04:00Comments on 37 Paddington: Processing37paddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-36758369468019494642016-07-17T14:50:08.243-04:002016-07-17T14:50:08.243-04:00Nothing to add to all this love for you but my lov...Nothing to add to all this love for you but my love, too, winging its way. I'm so very sorry you're in pain. We will all support you in whatever choices you make. I hope your vacation is grand in all ways. Find a bird to fly a message up to that waterfall and let it know that the happiness continues and is multiplied.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07247877396600721769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-29626733444152894832016-07-17T06:16:42.336-04:002016-07-17T06:16:42.336-04:00Go on that holiday and smash it! :-) Seriously. Ju...Go on that holiday and smash it! :-) Seriously. Just go for it.<br /><br />Greetings from London.A Cuban In Londonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16423293358605007539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-91122928603151206962016-07-16T16:04:07.739-04:002016-07-16T16:04:07.739-04:00Thank you, thank you, dear friends, for your conce...Thank you, thank you, dear friends, for your concern and good sense. I appreciate your counsel and will surely have a wonderful time with my family, and my sweet adventurous man. And when I return perhaps it will be time to really engage with the possibility of living pain free. Mostly I'll try to go easy on myself as I put one foot in front of the other. Life is good. I am able. And I have dear friends here. Lovelovelove 37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-48690951458069980372016-07-16T12:09:53.780-04:002016-07-16T12:09:53.780-04:00Yup. Invisagal (and everyone else) has some good a...Yup. Invisagal (and everyone else) has some good advice here. I hope you take it. I hope you go soak in the ocean and pass on the hike. I hope that when are soaking in that ocean, you feel the healing energy of Yemaya and that you feel your own power and the love of everyone that surrounds you and that it fills you with strength and bliss. XXOO yoplantingalongtheverge.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13899341805908954700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-25204098028111425712016-07-15T10:33:23.153-04:002016-07-15T10:33:23.153-04:00Thank you for your honesty. I have been thinking o...Thank you for your honesty. I have been thinking of you during these past almost four weeks now that my back has started to bother me with sometimes awful and other times bearable but never without pain. I know I would sell my mother's best china to get the treatment if only I knew which. But I will try every avenue, every suggestion, every chiropractor, osteopath, surgeon, before I let it take its place in my life and I really think you must do the same. <br />Still, some nights I lie awake thinking what if it never goes away again? But then nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know. <br /><br />Dear Angella, I know several people who have had successful hip replacements and I hope that one day you will be one of them.<br />Sabinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09015827501648296977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-90624681400036453832016-07-15T06:28:30.432-04:002016-07-15T06:28:30.432-04:00Invisigal and others above have said what needs to...Invisigal and others above have said what needs to be said. But I'll reiterate that you are not oversharing. In fact, I like it when you write more about yourself, your feelings and experiences. I'm sure your husband will understand about the falls. After all, he wouldn't want to put you through an unpleasant, painful experience, especially not just to re-create a picture. (As nice as that idea is!)Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-39399638418669539492016-07-15T03:00:16.784-04:002016-07-15T03:00:16.784-04:00All the above comments have given excellent advi...All the above comments have given excellent advice and counsel. I can't add much more. My mother had her hip replaced when she was 89, and it gave her nearly another 10 years of relatively pain free life. She was losing the will to live prior to the op!<br />I had a half knee replacement 6 years ago aged 64, and am not worried about it needing to be done again if I live long enough……I will cross that bridge as and when. I know it is hard to lose weight, especially when you can't do much exercise. I am lucky that I can walk the dogs twice a day, and have just managed to lose 3 pounds this last 3 weeks. Have a wonderful time in Jamaica and tell that gorgeous man of yours that you can't walk up that river, and why. He will understand, and be able to help you moving onwards to a solution. Love to you all from England. XFranceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576715462615744934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-7285478346605910852016-07-14T22:46:17.958-04:002016-07-14T22:46:17.958-04:00I admire you for being honest here, and you are no...I admire you for being honest here, and you are not over sharing. I did not know you have this pain and are carrying that extra weight and may need a hip replacement. I think you and your hubby can have a very romantic time in Jamaica without a hike to the water fall. Many people I know that have had hip replacements are very happy with the results, and if you dare to do it, I pray that will be a happy result for you too. Now be sure to pamper yourself in some way, you especially deserve to celebrate your book publication.Terra https://www.blogger.com/profile/04396481049075747940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-21795501096936701062016-07-14T22:33:50.273-04:002016-07-14T22:33:50.273-04:00Pain is invisible and I think it would be a better...Pain is invisible and I think it would be a better world if that fact were not so. It is hard for others to understand the extent of one's suffering. So we must keep trying to explain to them.<br /><br />I hope you find a new, accessible place to take a romantic shot. And if your husband is intent on climbing to those waterfalls, perhaps he can take a large head shot of you with him and take a selfie with your photo :) <br /><br />I hope you take strength from Birdie's post because she has had experience and that is what you need to face surgery. I fear medical stuff, too, so I do understand ... probably 95% of the population fear it, and the other 5% are just weird. Doctors do have differing opinions on things; I think Birdie's advice there was especially good.<br /><br />Remember Maya Angelou: "People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." I would also add that people will forget what you looked like in a bathing suit, but they will never forget that you hugged them and talked to them and ate and drank and made merry with them and loved them. Have a restful and joyful time away.jenny_ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15475480579733466963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-46881702580885452992016-07-14T19:14:07.818-04:002016-07-14T19:14:07.818-04:00As a person who has cared for people before and af...As a person who has cared for people before and after hip transplants I can tell you a few things. Part of the reason you are needing to lose weight in the first place is because it causes you so much pain just to walk, never mind moving enough to get your heart rate up to burn calories. And I can promise you that dying from a blood clot after surgery is very, very rare. Surgeries are so different now. After every surgery they put these puffy things on your legs that keeps blood moving. They also get you up very soon after surgery. They used to let you stay in bed. No more. You get up and walk around. I would consider getting a second opinion on the weight loss before surgery. One surgeon may have different criteria. <br /><br />I think men age differently than women. My husband seems to be getting better. I am going downhill so fast. Weight that won't move, grey hair, these gawd awful red marks all over my body, sagging everything... I look like shit. I am not kidding. The last picture that I had the nerve to post on my blog was a really good day with great lighting taken by my sister who takes pictures professionally!<br /><br />Okay, I am rambling. I happen to think you are interesting, intelligent and beautiful.Birdiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03479872783727855901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-314132666507188192016-07-14T18:02:14.104-04:002016-07-14T18:02:14.104-04:00Oh friend, I'm sorry for your pain. Is the 10...Oh friend, I'm sorry for your pain. Is the 100 pounds what an expert doctor said?<br /><br />The technology of these things improves drastically and quickly. I tell myself this, as I need surgery on my hips, but only if I want to not be hurting. Do you also carry tension in your hips?<br /><br />I wish the best of vacations for you.NOLAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05572754078356812922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-80904166836563801322016-07-14T17:12:04.964-04:002016-07-14T17:12:04.964-04:00Well, I think that Invisigal is exactly right abou...Well, I think that Invisigal is exactly right about us being women and how each child takes some of us. It's just the truth. And oh! How I understand! I have to use my hand to pull my right leg into my britches. Not for balance, but because that leg just doesn't go there by itself anymore. And I'm in pain all of the time and have I been to a doctor? Oh hell no. Okay, I did back when the pain started which was about thirty years ago. "Nothing, nothing we can see." Fuck. <br />You do NOT overshare. And why else do we blog? Hell, I read a guy's blog who basically says the same thing every day which is, "Went to work. It wasn't horrible. Came home. Did yard work. Looking forward to the weekend. Hope I don't do too much yard work." <br />I'm serious. Why do I read it? Because it amuses me so. But do I care? <br />You know the answer to that.<br />I care about you. We, in this little and precious community DO care and we see you sitting in the surf or paddling about, smiling. We see you with your husband who loves you as you are, and has romantic feelings about you. We see you as so strong that when you get a chance to sigh and let the burdens drop, you have no idea what to do because you have no practice in that. <br />We see you as incredibly beautiful. <br />I like to think that we see you as you are. <br />Love...Mary Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-78963954575632901572016-07-14T16:12:20.425-04:002016-07-14T16:12:20.425-04:00Listen. I grew up watching strong West Indian wom...Listen. I grew up watching strong West Indian women take on all that comes their way, handling the impossible with a smile and a sweetness that belies the pure iron just below the surface. I have been reading you long enough to know that you are one of them. After a lifetime of shouldering that emotional, spiritual and psychic load, never mind the physical, aren't you entitled now to a period of reduced drive and increased TLC?<br /><br />Tell your man that you just aren't able for that climb, much as you would like to be that young woman of long ago, you cannot be. I always say that men don't really change after their first child, but everytime we as women bring someone new into this world or bury someone we are changed forever. How can you be that young woman after bringing so many in and seeing so many out of this world? After burying your aunt and your dear mother. My dear, go and sit by the sea and let the tide speak to your blood. Bathe in the sea and let that sea-bath soothe that hip and all those other pains. Old people say there is nothing like a sea bath and they would know. Get some ceresee bush and drink the tea. And when you start to heal inside and accept the beautiful, accomplished and yes, battle-scarred woman that you are today, I think you will get on a list for that surgery. No one will leave you alone to get an embolism and pass away alone. When you are brave enough you will do all that needs to be done. Until then big-up unu self.<br /><br />-invisigalAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-25607590277524362362016-07-14T15:52:35.064-04:002016-07-14T15:52:35.064-04:00Nope, doesn't sound like a self-pitying whine....Nope, doesn't sound like a self-pitying whine. Sounds like a mortal<br />being. May your time at the beach be deeply refreshing.Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06318174928862120631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-44682113781590602062016-07-14T14:44:15.329-04:002016-07-14T14:44:15.329-04:00I refuse to support the statement "over share...I refuse to support the statement "over sharer in the worst way," uh huh, no way! I think you share just the right amount. I appreciate that you share your feelings and your reality and I'm glad you can feel safe to do so here, pseudonym or no :o)<br /><br />I am very sorry to hear that your hip gives you so much pain. I hope that you and your hubby can sneak off to something else romantic that honors where you are now. <br /><br />I also hope that your anxious tension can unfurl a little bit and that you can begin to relax-I know it isn't easy and sometimes we can't help but be tense no matter what tricks we try! Hopefully we both get some chillaxin' time to drift over us shortly :o)<br /><br />Hugs.<br /><br />HBFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10338445335742876196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-20998459689892173712016-07-14T13:54:00.141-04:002016-07-14T13:54:00.141-04:00Poor you.
Forget it all for a while.Come over for ...Poor you.<br />Forget it all for a while.Come over for a cool drink and play detective with me.(You will see what I mean) landscapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06680413416745254180noreply@blogger.com