tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post7716360828142080973..comments2024-03-28T14:45:34.423-04:00Comments on 37 Paddington: Mid-week ramble37paddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-38191809925224605792014-04-17T13:52:08.096-04:002014-04-17T13:52:08.096-04:00Yolie, it is a perfect illustration although I did...Yolie, it is a perfect illustration although I didn't make the connection till you said it! We slosh through the rain and find the small bright spots of color, or we allow ourselves to be grateful that we can look on at the snow from inside a warm place. Always, there is much to be thankful for. I am thankful for you.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-37084167036603451642014-04-17T13:50:09.571-04:002014-04-17T13:50:09.571-04:00Vesuvius, just came back from a meeting and realiz...Vesuvius, just came back from a meeting and realize that all i really want to do for the rest of the day is hibernate, but i can't because i have commitments with a capital C, and i keep feeling i'll just get this done, and this and then I can relax but of course there is always something else by then that has to get done too. This, however, is what they call "a happy problem", so I am endeavoring to be happy about it. Thanks, friend, xo37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-35764208345227234932014-04-17T11:47:47.981-04:002014-04-17T11:47:47.981-04:00Just like that. Warm weather and rain one day and ...Just like that. Warm weather and rain one day and snow the next. No better illustration of moods, feelings. I love this post. <br />I just planted some pansies in my window box.<br />love,<br />yoplantingalongtheverge.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13899341805908954700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-26779169917084473322014-04-17T09:29:58.053-04:002014-04-17T09:29:58.053-04:00The 20's are hard. A really hard time. So much...The 20's are hard. A really hard time. So much ahead of us and we feel as if we ought to have the tools to handle it all, but we don't. I'm glad your daughter is going to see someone. I hope she keeps the appointment even if she's feeling better in two weeks.<br /><br />And for you, Angella, I can't add to the wisdom Mary left. Just be gentle with yourself and give yourself lots of time and space to recover. I felt a touch of what you're feeling for two full weeks after returning from Colorado, and that was just jet lag! No grief involved. You're dealing with both, so proceed slowly, don't ask too much of yourself. You're doing beautifully. Vesuvius At Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02783271096885148080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-43729006096658914582014-04-17T08:55:24.673-04:002014-04-17T08:55:24.673-04:00Steve, I'm sure you're right about the cou...Steve, I'm sure you're right about the counseling center. Welcome home! Your photos of the Seychelles were amazing! They reminded me so much of the Caribbean islands; I wonder if that was true for you, too? And the taxes weren't that arduous; my Wonderful Accountant worked his magic in no time at all. I'm so grateful for him.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-83371823753455589672014-04-17T08:52:18.015-04:002014-04-17T08:52:18.015-04:00Oh Elizabeth I am so happy to know you're on t...Oh Elizabeth I am so happy to know you're on the upswing. Life is weird indeed. Sometimes I think we are all a soup of chemistry gone awry or gone right. I'm trying not to give it all so much weight, to take it all with a certain lightness of spirit, even the darkest moods. Love.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-73255470108549218382014-04-17T08:50:27.296-04:002014-04-17T08:50:27.296-04:00Densie, i know you know; the details never end. Bu...Densie, i know you know; the details never end. But my mother once looked at me as I was complaining about the demands of various institutions and she said, you're going to miss it when you don't have to do it anymore. I think of that a lot.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-40021534573685155352014-04-17T08:48:54.596-04:002014-04-17T08:48:54.596-04:00Candice, I am keeping busy! And you're right, ...Candice, I am keeping busy! And you're right, these ailments of body and mind are simply part of life. Let's grab lunch again soon, okay?37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-11364727902458415332014-04-17T08:47:31.668-04:002014-04-17T08:47:31.668-04:00Mel, the funny thing is it doesn't feel like c...Mel, the funny thing is it doesn't feel like conventional grief because it was such a relief for my aunt to be released from the prison of her body, which could not do anything for her anymore, not even speak or smile, and yet i miss her. When I am on my way home most days the thought crosses my mind that maybe I will stop in and spend a few moments with her and then I remember she's no longer there. She was a wonderful person to me. And where she was there is now such a void. It feels surreal. Thanks for your thoughtful and kind comment. You are always so thoughtful and kind. Love.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-57775927525805959692014-04-17T03:17:56.550-04:002014-04-17T03:17:56.550-04:00I'm sure the counseling center determines, whe...I'm sure the counseling center determines, when students first ask for an appointment, whether they need to be seen immediately or not. I think your husband is right. American culture teaches us that we should be happy all the time, and when we're not, something is wrong. We deny ourselves so many other feelings, or try to push them away.<br /><br />I'm glad you're still getting so much work! That's great for you! I do not envy you having to do everyone's taxes, though. Ugh. Taxes these days are so much more complicated than they ever used to be. (Partly because my life is more complicated, I suspect!)Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-23071898609763055772014-04-17T01:48:50.892-04:002014-04-17T01:48:50.892-04:00Oh, I love this post. My long and gruesome funk an...Oh, I love this post. My long and gruesome funk and dissociation ended quite gracefully tonight, and I have no fucking idea how or why. Life is weird.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-66612537803757927672014-04-16T23:39:20.479-04:002014-04-16T23:39:20.479-04:00Why is there soooo much to take care of? I put my ...Why is there soooo much to take care of? I put my list in my phone, delete stuff, add stuff, repeat, repeat. I like the image of building a bridge and getting the fuck over it. Yeah. <br />Wishing you sweet travels.Denise Emanuel Clemenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982725113569943337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-6096512106258538982014-04-16T20:48:18.960-04:002014-04-16T20:48:18.960-04:00oh no, that rain and win was awful yesterday! glad...oh no, that rain and win was awful yesterday! glad to hear you're keeping busy. i think when our loved ones are away we think simple ailments are much bigger because we aren't next to them. i'm sure she was happy to hear from you as well. that helps. also, i too think you're not supposed to be happy every day. that's exhausting lol. you have to give in to your own feelings sometimes. it's healthyCandice Frederickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16195801629178470295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-69470154813539912522014-04-16T17:19:53.792-04:002014-04-16T17:19:53.792-04:00Mary is wise, she is right. Fractured and unfocuse...Mary is wise, she is right. Fractured and unfocused are normal grief responses, I believe that. The hormone shifts and disturbed sleep make things worse, so I too live with my notes. I'm filling notebooks, I am! Your daughter is so wise to recognize how she feels in the first place and go talk to someone in the second. Smart, smart young woman. Your son and husband are smart, smart too. And so are you.<br />Be as kind to yourself as you'll allow, forgive yourself for being a little off for a while. It's natural.<br />Read some of Kevin Youngs anthology The Art of Losing if you can. It is helpful and cathartic poetry. http://kevinyoungpoetry.com/the-art-of-losing.html<br /><br />Love you, and I laughed at your Comcast aside. 16 years I've been handling the account and today in the middle of a ridiculous self installed upgrade fiasco, they inform me I'm not authorized to discuss the account and will only speak to my husband, who has Never Spoken to Them. Absurd. Hate that company with a passion. Sorry, I feel better now.<br />Safe travels to see your mom. I'll think of you as I visit mine.<br />xoMelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10114884092474969555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-60332056763201102602014-04-16T13:48:55.539-04:002014-04-16T13:48:55.539-04:00Ms. Moon, it's perplexing to me how fractured ...Ms. Moon, it's perplexing to me how fractured my concentration has been. I mean, we knew my aunt would not be here forever, and indeed her dying was a release, but still. A part of me just wants to lie in bed and read and sleep, but that is not an option. I wish I could make it so my children never have a moments unease, but of course, that would be doing them a great disservice, wouldn't it. How would they ever then learn to build the bridge of which my son speaks? Thanks for your wise counsel.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-72093446885729406212014-04-16T12:11:32.411-04:002014-04-16T12:11:32.411-04:00The first time I went through the death of a close...The first time I went through the death of a close friend (and we were very close and I was with her when she died) I found the following days and weeks and even months to be profound out-of-body experiences. I could not focus on anything. I literally sat and watched informercials on TV because I couldn't follow a regular sit-com, must less a movie. So I think you are doing very, very well. And because I know you let me ask you please not to take on your daughter's worries even as you advise her not to take on yours. <br />We do all go through these things and she is doing the right thing by going to talk to someone, albeit not as soon as you would like. <br />Your son is amazing. Which makes a lot of sense. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.com