tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post4426008038053445557..comments2024-03-18T19:17:53.280-04:00Comments on 37 Paddington: Tilt and whirl37paddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-68211580519391204142014-07-15T14:24:32.881-04:002014-07-15T14:24:32.881-04:00You certainly aren't alone as you can tell. I&...You certainly aren't alone as you can tell. I'm always better if there's at least one other person there. 3 is definitely not a crowd for me. I'm always terrified of the awkward silences with a new person. I'm always terrified we won't have anything to talk about. I hope the experience was well worth it. xoxoRachelVBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10312736736551027564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-10221139054588073582014-07-13T01:36:14.726-04:002014-07-13T01:36:14.726-04:00I am catching up with reading and your post made m...I am catching up with reading and your post made me feel like we were comrades and less alone as I am notorious for making plans and then wanting to cancel them. All the comments made me laugh that we are all so similar and I won't feel so bad about my behavior anymore because I usually force myself to go and have a good time. I don't mind being alone but then I at times I get so lonely and I will crave professional meetings or art gatherings or go to pet stores to visit pets!! Like you and others I have a handful of friends I can always be up to being with. We are creatures of habit I guess. Sweet JoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-15980724221458087342014-07-12T23:21:44.502-04:002014-07-12T23:21:44.502-04:00I know your feelings, though I seem less prone to ...I know your feelings, though I seem less prone to them than I once was...I am not sure whether that is a blessing or a curse. I think my losses are reminding me that connection is important, even when it is difficult. I'm glad you went and had a good time.ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-2674046022491332442014-07-12T17:38:47.540-04:002014-07-12T17:38:47.540-04:00Rebecca, it's not luck of course. You seek the...Rebecca, it's not luck of course. You seek the magic and you find it. I sometimes forget to seek the magic, and then I'm just lonely. The world at large can indeed be dazzling.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-29338766261606516552014-07-12T17:36:01.172-04:002014-07-12T17:36:01.172-04:00Sabine, I think it is good for people like us to b...Sabine, I think it is good for people like us to be connected to people like your husband and your daughter! And for sure, you are not alone!37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-7967317661134925402014-07-12T17:34:53.535-04:002014-07-12T17:34:53.535-04:00Kristin, are you usually surrounded by family? i i...Kristin, are you usually surrounded by family? i imagine that helps at lot.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-55450721675424566172014-07-12T17:33:47.984-04:002014-07-12T17:33:47.984-04:00Scott, I think your take on Wackos Anonymous is pe...Scott, I think your take on Wackos Anonymous is perfect! I love what you say about trying to be open rather than self protective, and of course we meet ourselves out there in the world, because we are all reflections of each other, we are all each other in fact. i suppose when our perspective is positively pitched, that is the energy we attract so its worth it to work on that. I am so glad to see you here, you have no idea. you have been writing some wonderful reflections on your blog and I am grateful you take the time to share it, i am grateful for you.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-65665147259452335482014-07-12T17:27:01.527-04:002014-07-12T17:27:01.527-04:00LInda Sue, and yet you will go and have a good tim...LInda Sue, and yet you will go and have a good time, and then you will come home happy and a touch relieved that it is over. This is how it often works for me.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-2519392480439595992014-07-12T17:25:33.659-04:002014-07-12T17:25:33.659-04:00Yolie, it's always a good thing. I'll admi...Yolie, it's always a good thing. I'll admit something: I have secretly thought that if I were more comfortable with my appearance physically it would be easier to show up. But you are a gorgeous, slim, elegant woman and you have this same issue, so maybe it is something else entirely. And yes, it is generally good to push ourselves out there and connect with others. How better to enrich our lives?37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-48123716431609159592014-07-12T17:23:27.772-04:002014-07-12T17:23:27.772-04:00Steve, you and Dave seem very social with your fri...Steve, you and Dave seem very social with your friends, and with people coming through town who stay overnight with you. I admire that.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-32023199518431031222014-07-12T17:22:24.084-04:002014-07-12T17:22:24.084-04:00Candice, maybe there are so many of us here who fe...Candice, maybe there are so many of us here who feel this way because it is the way many people who write are made? You might be right.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-59716852833238977442014-07-12T17:21:16.566-04:002014-07-12T17:21:16.566-04:00Vesuvius, I hope you went on your date and drank g...Vesuvius, I hope you went on your date and drank good wine and laughed a lot. This is exactly how my date worked out, also with a writer. She was a delight. I love that Larry David bit about canceled plans!37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-33313554670464768672014-07-12T17:20:02.537-04:002014-07-12T17:20:02.537-04:00Denise, I have been trying to analyze when it is e...Denise, I have been trying to analyze when it is easy to show up, what the features are of the particular interaction that make it easy. i have a tiny cluster of friends who i can be whatever self i happen to be that day. showing up implies a performance and with these women, i am simply being. that might be a clue to something, hmmm.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-23220765947760699602014-07-12T17:17:26.636-04:002014-07-12T17:17:26.636-04:00SJ, I know just what you mean about being with peo...SJ, I know just what you mean about being with people in the city. New York is the same. I could easily isolate myself in my home, but then i get lonely, and i can always go out my door and see people. it helps to re-ground me. if that makes sense.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-13847441542924049912014-07-12T17:15:28.853-04:002014-07-12T17:15:28.853-04:00ellen, i went and i had a lovely time. isn't i...ellen, i went and i had a lovely time. isn't it always that way?37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-14449165885766744332014-07-12T17:14:47.715-04:002014-07-12T17:14:47.715-04:00Expat mom, maybe there's just too much energy ...Expat mom, maybe there's just too much energy swirling around out there! Home is a respite. Until we get cabin fever, that is.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-85662580911976111932014-07-12T17:13:54.682-04:002014-07-12T17:13:54.682-04:00susan, dread is the right word indeed. I would go ...susan, dread is the right word indeed. I would go to Wackos Anonymous. At least we would know we were strange birds together.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-850145106375800122014-07-12T17:12:58.447-04:002014-07-12T17:12:58.447-04:00Elizabeth, at least you don't agonize. This is...Elizabeth, at least you don't agonize. This is good.37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-58612251214654463112014-07-12T17:12:24.199-04:002014-07-12T17:12:24.199-04:00Ah Mary, the big unanswerable question, why?Ah Mary, the big unanswerable question, why?37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-72725327609255626902014-07-12T13:32:38.693-04:002014-07-12T13:32:38.693-04:00I don't show up and I don't apologize for ...I don't show up and I don't apologize for it not anymore I just say no thank you. My experiences in the world <i>at large</i> (and they are legion) are enough to keep me dazzled. Radish Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06534752971317927559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-91703629754022005712014-07-12T11:33:00.463-04:002014-07-12T11:33:00.463-04:00I am very happy now, after reading your post and a...I am very happy now, after reading your post and all the comments because I used to think that it was just odd, weird, strange, anti-social me who felt that way. My life is soo hard: My man comes from a family who feels strongly and with purpose that a stranger is a friend you haven't met yet and my daughter thinks the whole world is just waiting for her to come and visit.Sabinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09015827501648296977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-3219039078507870602014-07-12T08:45:00.689-04:002014-07-12T08:45:00.689-04:00Adding my voice to the group I feel like that too ...Adding my voice to the group I feel like that too and also usually have a good time if I just go on and do it. Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06413795611563683135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-31723705929174383142014-07-11T12:05:01.424-04:002014-07-11T12:05:01.424-04:00the universal experience! you've nailed it!
w...the universal experience! you've nailed it!<br /><br />we should build a movement around it, although as Susan pointed out, no one would ever attend our meetings! But we'd all, I'm sure, enjoy knowing that we had a meeting to attend that we could blow off and everyone, everyone, would totally understand.<br /><br />ha.<br /><br />strange birds, indeed.<br /><br />We do, though, get a lot out of it if we can drag our sorry asses out to meet the world. I think what's key is that we have to shift our perspective, try to open up rather than protect ourselves. When we're fully open, we meet the most wonderful aspects of ourselves right there in the outside world!<br /><br />You're not alone, not ever.<br />tearful dishwasherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13436954924992728636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-54125995768617934892014-07-11T10:51:31.669-04:002014-07-11T10:51:31.669-04:00Well this is very timely! My husband came home las...Well this is very timely! My husband came home last night - announced that we are going to a persons house for dinner next week, people I have no idea about, of course I immediately went into "sorry, I have a headache" mode.I do not want to spend an evening with a couple I do not know at all , eating dinner and making small talk and being polite and staying too long- but of course I will go and try to behave, try to not embarrass my husband (one never knows)....this is a struggle for me and I do think a broken leg sounds like a pretty good option.Linda Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03070050388987072100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9107151958453669111.post-33732163467733754392014-07-11T10:46:22.639-04:002014-07-11T10:46:22.639-04:00Isn't it funny so many of us feel this? I too ...Isn't it funny so many of us feel this? I too have to coax and cajole myself to get out there, go! And as you know, when you go, its almost always a "good thing". Almost.plantingalongtheverge.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13899341805908954700noreply@blogger.com