Wednesday, October 2, 2019

The feeling of belonging


I don't even know how to write about Aunt Grace's memorial service, except to say her send-off was far more joyful than sad, a true celebration of a woman whose driving force was always love, and that is what we brought to her memorial, love and more love. Lots of cousins came, the younger ones, the cousins in their twenties and early thirties, bonded in ways that made the older ones, the aunts and uncles in their fifties and sixties, smile deeply with satisfaction. After the day-long repast, which lasted into the evening with dinner at a Mandarin buffet, my own three (my son and daughter and niece, in the photo above) went out for drinks with their cousins from Vancouver. They all stayed up into the wee hours, and my daughter said after that it was easy and good, with many belly laughs, and a sense of being alike, of being related, a sense of belonging to one another. It's that sense of belonging that my family excels at, the feeling that we are a tribe, enfolded, and that word again, loved. I'm rambling. Here are pictures from the gathering last Saturday in Toronto, at which we bade the last of the nine, our incomparable Grace, aka Gaga, a grateful tear-and-laughter-filled goodbye.













11 comments:

  1. I am so very sorry for your loss, she was truly loved. Beautiful family, sometimes laughter and tears are the best medicine,

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  2. I dreamed early this morning that your family had joined me and some of mine in a resort somewhere in this world. I was sitting next to your daughter. She felt like mine.
    That, I think, says it all about how I feel about your beautiful family.

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  3. You are the queen of my heart.
    Love
    Rebecca

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  4. I love these photos so much. Yes, the tribe gathers with so much love. Your family is so beautiful in every way.

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  5. Your Aunt Grace's love clearly touched so many family members and touches me. Truly a celebration of life in these photos and in what you have written about her.

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  6. Wow, I wish every family could be like yours. Such happiness. You all did Grace proud.

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  7. Beautiful. That's what a funeral should be, a joyful celebration of life.

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  8. y'all have got it down. that feeling of belonging and knowing it is real is a beautiful gift.

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  9. Beautiful pictures from a meaningful family event! You all DO have the togetherness thing down pat. So much joy even in the midst of sorrow.

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  10. BEAUTIFUL pictures! I haven't been on here for months and am so glad that you are back on my feed!!! I missed so much I need to catch up now!!!

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  11. That family feeling, the feeling of belonging - there's nothing like it, is there? Although I have a large extended family, there are only a few I'm in contact with, but being with them makes me feel so conncected.

    You have such a beautiful family, in all senses of the word.

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