That's the view from the window next to my favorite table in the cafe where I go to write some days, away from the distractions of home. You can set up by that window and sit there for hours nursing one cup of coffee and no one cares. Today I'm ruminating. Feeling unsure. I have to decide whether to move forward with a project and I am in the weeds, making up stories that might be based on good and valid instincts, but which might just as likely be nothing more than nature abhorring a vacuum, and into that vacuum I habitually rush with all sorts of worst case scenarios. Do I just jump? Say yes with all my angst and not knowing? Is it enough to trust the very fact that I'm standing here? Maybe I should read that book Shonda Rhimes wrote, Year of Yes. What do you think? Would a hell yeah mindset make life simpler all around?
"In the absence of actual facts and knowing" sounds like you need more information, or at least to make your decision contingent on getting more information! For myself, I do not trust positive thinking to overcome lack of facts. Your mileage may vary, as they say these days :)
ReplyDeleteJenny_o, there are three very strong reasons to say yes, I should have mentioned that. The question is are they sufficient to overcome the uncomfortable unknowns, and the uncomfortable knowns for that matter. I know the answer really. I guess I'm just trying to make peace with it by processing out loud here. But just writing this response to you helped me focus more clearly on the reasons to say yes. It could be they are salient. Thank you friend (and birthday mate).
DeleteSometimes I'm not sure there is a "right" answer. Only an answer.
ReplyDeleteMary, oddly, that really helps!
DeleteSome decisions you'll only learn the wisdom of by virtue of experience. We can't know everything in advance. Whether this is good or bad you'll only know by doing.
ReplyDeletee, I think you’re right. Some things one can only assess after taking the leap. One day after writing this post, I feel ready. Thank you.
DeleteI think it's extremely rare that we ever know the absolutely "right" decision. Perhaps only in Love - and even that one is still a jump.
ReplyDeleteLiv, I do wish we could do all things for love, but sometimes it’s for more material reasons. There is still the possibility though, of falling in love by surprise. I hope that happens here.
DeleteFrom Ursula Le Guin:
ReplyDeleteWhen action grows unprofitable, gather information;
When information grows unprofitable, sleep.
Thank you for this wisdom, Jenn!
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