Thursday, August 31, 2017

State of things

My husband is in the hospital. Tests and more tests. I can't really talk about it except to say we are finally getting some answers, and they are not easy ones, and we are picking our way through the medical maze.

My daughter was supposed to fly to LA tonight to see friends and on hearing the latest news, at the gate, decided not to go. The airline gave her a full refund, bless them.

My son is in Mexico for a wedding, left early this morning. He was with us last night when his dad was admitted, so was our girl, and it seemed that we finally knew why he wasn't getting better, the MRI had showed the problem, and all that was left was treat it. Except as the doctors investigated further they turned up another underlying problem, possibly the source, which had been asymptomatic while doing its damage, and now surgery is being talked about, really serious chest cracking surgery, and the alternative is pretty scary, too.

My son knew none of this before he left, or he wouldn't have left, and now he's trying to get a flight home, except hurricane bands are now pummeling Cabo and the airports are closing down. He's so upset to be far away. He and his dad were talking on the phone, both of them crying.

That big strong man, making jokes from his hospital bed. And then getting news this afternoon and becoming quiet. Life twists on a dime, and then twists again. We're running to keep up, believing in grace.

32 comments:

  1. Thinking of you dear one and your golden family. Crisis after crisis. Hold on tight. I'm lighting a white candle for your husband and another for you. Keeping you all in my thoughts. Love Rebecca

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  2. I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. x

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  3. I'm going to light a candle too. Candles all over this country burning for the two of you.
    Faith in science, faith in strength. Faith in grace and in light and in love.

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  4. We're all out here sending love. We love you. Molto forte e corragio.

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  5. Thinking of you and your man and hoping for good results. Stay calm my friend.

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  6. Ohhh ... my heart is with you all, R. Wishing you strength as you navigate this time. You can do it. We are always stronger than we think. Hugs. I'll be thinking of you.

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  7. Yes. Grace. Sending more love.

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  8. I too will light a candle. I pray for your husband. I pray for your family. I am sorry you are going thru this. I am here.

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  9. I am so sorry there must be surgery. Here's hoping for a complete and total healing and recovery.

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  10. Lurker coming out to say...love and healing Light to your family. From a stranger that cares.

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  11. Hang on tight, hugs and healing!

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  12. I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I am praying for you all, for at good outcome and for strength to bear the moments before that outcome arrives. Have faith and lean on each other in this time. Please know that you are loved and the recipients of an outpouring of love and prayers.

    -invisigal

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  13. I pray that he is healed from the top of his head to the soles of his feet and comfort and strength for you and your family.

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  14. Holding your hand across the miles. I will also light a candle tonight.

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  15. I am thinking of you so much. I've been quiet on comments but always reading. I am lighting a candle tonight for him and you.

    SJ

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  16. I don't think I have ever commented but have read your beautiful words and adored your gorgeous family for years(wandered over from Mary Moon's blog). I know you are terrified. My beloved husband of 40 years this month has survived prostate cancer(5 yrs cancer free) and heart by-pass surgery(18 years ago) and we are both still trying to heal from the death of our son, 3 yrs ago. But he is still a vital and strong man, he is my rock. We welcomed our first grandchild 4 months ago. That child has been so healing to us both. I guess I tell you these things just to remind you that life throws some really hard, shitty things in our path but so very often we get through them to the other side and still have many beautiful moments to cherish. Hang in there my dear, you have so much love, and prayers and healing thoughts sent to you to support you in this hard time. I too will light a candle way down in Jackson, MS.

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  17. Oh no. Thinking of you and your family, praying for the best. xo

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  18. Also lighting a candle and hoping and praying for a good outcome. Much love.
    Xoxo
    Barbara

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  19. Oh, I'm sorry y'all are going through this. And glad you're finally getting answers, and about how much love you have for each other.

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  20. Thinking of you all and wishing your man well....with love from England. XX

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  21. Sending you and your family good thoughts from Ohio.

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  22. I am praying for your husband that the treatment/surgery will bring him back on the road to 100% recovery from this.

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  23. Please add my hopes and good wishes to the full sum of all here. Thinking of you and your beautiful family and sending the best of our hearts to you.

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  24. I'm so sorry to hear this Rosemary! I'm joining everyone in sending prayers for you and yours. Stay strong. XXOO

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  25. Rosemarie, I'm so sorry to hear this news. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

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  26. I'm so sorry. I'm thankful that your husband is in hospital and he's getting treatment. Take care.

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  27. I am thinking of your family today and wishing things are going ok.

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  28. So many things, in the moment, seem unbearable and hopeless, but then turn out to be neither. I hope this is the case for you, that you and your man will, from a place of safety and comfort, look back on this as a painful time that you overcame.

    All the love, from me to you both. <3

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  29. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult and frightening time. Getting through the unknowns is always hard. That said, medical science is amazing and I choose to believe the experts will pull your wonderful husband through and get him back to good health. Together, we must will this to happen! Susan

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  30. Oh Rosemarie, I'm so sorry. I love you all. I'm sending all my love, and angels.

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